Reader’s Digest’s article “10 Tips for Finding True Love and Happiness” implies that true love is happiness. This
article is for the ladies – how to find the man of your dreams. A few of the
tips include: leaving the past in the past, getting out there (“ALWAYS go to
parties”), go against the hype, take your time, etc. It okays moving in
together before marriage and “passionate, amazing sex”.
For the ladies – Here is my
response to Reader’s Digest (get ready):
Love. It captures hearts. It
steals thoughts. It causes butterflies in your stomach and a smile on your
face. I am intrigued by love. I ache for love. I want it.
Let me say it again: I WANT
MY TRUE LOVE.
And I can have it.
But not it the way that Reader’s
Digest suggests.
“Whoever does not love does not
know God, because God is love.” (1 John 4:8)
I am amazed by God’s love –
particularly that it is just. We are taught that love is based on feelings,
that it doesn’t have to be logical, that it can go against authority if it is
strong enough. We are taught, quite honestly, that love means sex, and you
don’t really love him if you aren’t willing to give yourself away.
(Remember that statement.) We want our hearts to be captured; we want our
thoughts to linger on someone; we ache for those butterflies … We want to love,
and we want to be loved.
But here’s the thing, ladies.
We’re going about it all the wrong way. What if I told you that you already ARE
loved? “Ya, ya, ya.. I know, I know. God loves me.” But that knowledge
doesn’t satisfy anything, does it. Nope. That knowledge alone doesn’t satisfy
anything.
DON’T STOP READING.
For all of you who don’t know
Christ, that statement was true. For all of you who do, that statement probably
caused a little bit of an angry feeling in your stomach. But listen -
YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING WITH THAT
KNOWLEDGE.
Let me make sure we understand
what God’s love means.
God’s love = the Gospel message.
Romans 3:23 – “For all have sinned
and fallen short of the glory of God.” There is NOTHING we can do to deserve
His love. Only when we are perfect do we deserve it.
But I said His love is just. How
could His love be just if we don’t deserve it? If He loves us despite us not
deserving it … well that is not justice at all.
Romans 6:23 – “For the wages of
sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ
Jesus our Lord.”
“But if we walk in the
light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and THE
BLOOD OF JESUS CHRIST his Son cleanseth us from all sin.”
Romans 10:9-10 If you
declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your
heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is
with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your
mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.
There is nothing we can do to be
able to get to Heaven or to deserve His love. But when we accept (believe He is
risen and confess Him as Lord of our life) the ONLY WAY to Heaven and to His
love -the blood of Jesus Christ on the cross-, we are saved. We are
justified by it. His love is just because Jesus paid for all of our sin.
Just like someone behind you in the grocery store could pay for your groceries.
God paid for your sin. And you never have to pay it again!
“But God shows his love for us
in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” This is the ultimate
way that God show’s His love. He gives us freedom from sin! He gives us hope of
a future in heaven with Him!
Okay, so remember what I said at
the beginning? You don’t really love Him if you don’t give yourself
away. That is true. But WAIT. I changed it here. The “H” is capital. Our
greatest love isn’t another earthly man who sins as much as you. It is with the
One who IS the Authority, who isn’t based on feelings, but gives them as a
blessing. Who defies human logic, but is really the most logical answer of them
all. This love is astounding to me. We show our love by first asking for
forgiveness. We show our love by giving ourselves to Him. For forever.
And after we are saved by
believing and confessing: He gives peace. He gives joy. He carries us. His
grace is sufficient for us. He is constant. He never leaves us. He changes us
to look more like him. He satisfies us.
Don’t get me wrong. Circumstances
in life may still be hard. But He gives peace and joy and grace in the middle
of that. He satisfies us despite what happens.
How amazing that this huge God can
remain perfect and still rescue and care for little ol’ me! How amazing that I
can be satisfied no matter what this life brings! This is greater than any man.
HERE’S THE THING, THOUGH. GOD
DID GIVE US MEN.
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be
alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground
all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to
the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each
living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to
all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam[f] no
suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused
the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one
of the man’s ribs[g] and
then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LordGod made a
woman from the rib[h] he
had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall
be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is
united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Gen 2:4 – 3:24
Actually, He gave us to men.
He gave us a desire to love them. He gave us the butterfly feeling. He created
the smile. He wants us to find a suitable partner. But He also says:
“For I know the plans I have for
you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to
give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
So ladies. I have that ache for a
man, too. But I know that God has a perfect plan. One that will glorify Him and
prosper me. Let’s say thank you to God’s just love by giving ourselves to Him.
Let’s remain pure. There will be so much less hurt. There will be so much less
pain. Because He gives us peace even in the hardest times. Let’s say thank you to
God by loving a man that desires the same as us! A man who God, because He
loves us, brings together with you by your love for Him. God models the love
that is truest of all.